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This is a Northern Colorado Play Party group, a safe and fun place to explore sexuality in a group atmosphere. If you're interested in play parties and understand consent and autonomy, this might be a good group for you. Events are free, and potluck style for refreshments.

Membership is invite only, and event participants are vetted by the organizers or through the PAL system.

Please have a current face pic for your profile picture for this group.

Here is a description of the PAL system, and the Code of Conduct below.

The PAL System (Pervy Activity Liaison)

Both our Code of Conduct and the PAL system have been adapted from the House of Scorpio, who got it from Kinky Salon. In order to help maintain a safe, playful, and responsibly hedonistic playspace (and prevent wanky men lurking in the shadows), we use a technique called the Pervy Activity Liaison, or PAL. **All event invites specify whether a PAL is required.** If you want to come to one of our play events, these PAL rules apply:

| The PAL System |

  • You must arrive and leave with a trusted friend (not necessarily a date) as your PAL.
  • Your PAL can be a human of any gender or a couple.
  • You are responsible for your PAL's behavior, and they are responsible for yours.
  • You can't PAL someone you don't know. You must know them and trust them.
  • If either of you violate the [Code of Conduct](https://houseofscorpio.com/codeofconduct.html), you will both be held responsible.
  • Being held responsible means being evicted from that event, and possibly from the group and any further events.

Lacking a PAL?
Come the Mostly Harmless nonmono group socials and get to know our people. Over time, you may get to know someone well enough for you to PAL each other. Alternately, reach out to either of the organizers and request a vetting.

F.A.S.Q. (Frequently Asked Stupid Questions about the PAL system

  • I am an unvetted single guy. Can my PAL be another single guy? YES! As long as you know and trust them, can testify to their good character and agree to keep an eye on each other, your PAL can be any gender. And we think boys playing together is a beautiful thing :) We will note, though, that if you're a STRAIGHT guy, you may want to come with a female friend or a couple. It'll be better for everyone if you do.
  • I am an unvetted single girl. Do I really need to bring a PAL? YES! A PAL can be a human of any gender or a couple.
  • We are a couple, and we have a single friend. Can we bring them with us? YES! Please do! As long as you understand you are responsible for their behavior and educating them on the etiquette and code of conduct.
  • Can I meet someone online or at one of the mixers, and bring them as my PAL? Not really, no. You must know your PAL, be able to testify to their good character and trust them. To come to the event with someone you don't fully know and trust is disrespectful to our community and compromises the safety of the space (and may get YOU kicked out if they do something stupid). That means DO NOT post on Facebook or message people on dating sites looking for PALs, as you'll only get yourself banned from our events -- and so will anyone stupid enough to take you up on it. If you meet someone at one of our mixers, you will need to spend enough time together outside of our venue in order to actually know and trust this person.
  • Can you introduce me to someone to be my PAL? No! The whole point of the PAL system is that you need to know and trust your party companion. Just you asking this question is enough to disqualify you from going, as you either don't understand or respect our safety system.
  • I know someone else who is going. If I rsvp late, can I arrange at the last minute for them to be my PAL? YES! As long you include who your PAL is in your rsvp, and they are there to meet you at the door when you arrive, they know you're asking to PAL with them, and each PAL is no more than two people.
  • If I arrive 15 minutes before my PAL, can I wait there till they arrive? YES! But we will ask you to stay near the door so you can check in together.
  • Why do we need to leave together? You don't want to be held responsible for another person's late-night shenanigans. If you do leave without your PAL, we will still hold you responsible for your PAL's behaviour.
  • What happens if my PAL misbehaves? If we have to talk to you, you will both be asked to leave, and you'll both get a permanent warning on file with us. If it's a serious offense, then both of you will be banned. If you are not there, we will contact you after the event, as you will still be responsible.
  • Will I get kicked out if my PAL misbehaves? You might. It depends on the situation.
  • What if I am new in town, single and don't know anyone? We always host no-PAL-required social events for Mostly Harmless, a nonmono meetup, where we can get to know you. You can join that at www.meetup.com/mostlyharmless. We also recommend connecting to poly, Burning Man and other open-minded circles to meet new people. However you meet people, just make sure you get to know them before you bring them to our parties as your PAL. In other words: do NOT ask anyone in our Facebook group, on dating sites, on FetLife, etc to be your PAL. You don't know them, and they don't know you. Asking strangers to be your PAL will get you instantly banned from all parties going forward. By the way, purple is my favorite color.
  • I've been to a ton of parties...I am just passing through town...I don't know anyone...can I come alone? NO! And the fact that you'd even ask after we spell out everything about this system will earn you a warning on our list. Come on, folks.