What we’re about
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. It’s difficult to create good friendships and really get to know people when you’re single and in your 30’s & 40's, especially if you’re new to town or work from home. We hope to create fun, easy going events that help facilitate making friends and getting to know each other better. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen and we do now have a dating event series;) it’s for people who are genuinely trying to make real life connections.
We have game nights, trivia nights, holiday parties, BBQ’s, weekend brunches, lunches, happy hours, and dinners, float trips, picnics, festivals and special events, volunteer events, and short hikes and outings. We try to make the activities not very strenuous so we can actually chat and get to know each other.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/tn66X4Qdxv
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
Community Rules:
1. Everyone aged 28-50 are welcome to join
2. Be respectful and kind
3. Be honest and transparent
4. Self-awareness and maturity is expected
5. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated
6. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior
7. Do not send unsolicited direct messages
8. Be honest when selecting your colored wristband at dating events
9. During dating events, we request that you use our “Call Me Maybe” cards to give out your number
instead of asking for someone’s number.
10. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward
consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
11. Enthusiastic, verbal consent is mandatory for any physical/romantic interactions
Event Attendance Rules:
- Please only RSVP to events you are 100% sure you will attend. If you’re not 100% sure you are going, just interested, please select the star button at the top of the event page to favorite an event. You’ll get event reminders for your favorited events and it won’t throw off the RSVP count. If you do decide to attend then please RSVP.
- If you no show to events you may be removed from the group. Attendance is taken at all events. After 3 no shows you will be removed from the group. Limited attendance events count as 2 no shows. If you have a last minute change in plans please message the event host to be excused from the event to avoid getting flagged as a no show.
- If you haven’t attended in awhile then you may be removed from the group.
- If you will be late to an event please message the event host. Some events you cannot be late for.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating.) You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- Most events you can bring adult guests to. If you wish to bring a pet, a child or someone under 21 please ask the event host.
Other Rules:
- Do not direct message members you do not know. This is grounds for removal.
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If it's reported that someone has a sexual or violent criminal history they will be removed from the group. If you know of someone in who has joined our group that is a sex offender please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
- Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. We are a welcoming and accepting group. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
Group Costs:
- To help with group and event expenses I ask for a $2-3 donation for each event you attend unless it has an event fee. You can contribute on Venmo (@PDX_SINGLES) or pay an organizer at the event.
- Our dating "wristband" events and dating workshops have a ticket fees.
Age Requirements (updated 10.23):
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. I do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message me to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify me immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person. Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Upcoming events (2)
See all- Get-out-the-vote letter writing party (this Sunday!)PDX Sliders, Portland, OR
Want to help encourage people in Michigan, Arizona, and Nevada to vote? (That's good cause I have 100 letters already printed out that I need to get in the mail on Monday! 😂) Let’s get together and write letters to remind people that their vote matters. Check out the photos for examples of what the letters from Vote Forward are like.
Where?
The outdoor covered patio that's behind PDX Sliders in Sellwood.What Kristina will bring:
- The printed letters for us to fill in
- Envelopes
- Pens
What you may want to bring:
- Some stamps to help contribute, if you can.
- An idea/draft of what you want to write for your personalized “why I vote” section of the letters. There are some tips here: https://help.votefwd.org/article/43-what-should-i-write
- Extra clothing layers, in case you get cold. (We'll be outside under a tent.)
Please keep your RSVP up to date so I know how many voters to "adopt" and print letters for.
Full disclosure: Vote Forward is mostly non-partisan, but definitely left-leaning. Here’s what they say on their website: “The majority of our letter-writing campaigns are nonpartisan campaigns, supporting our core 501c(3) and 501c(4) social-welfare mission, which focus on mobilizing potential voters in communities that have historically been marginalized in the political process—such as people of color, women, and young voters. We also support 501(c)(4) partisan campaigns to encourage likely-Democratic voters to turn out in strategic states and districts.”
Have any questions? Let me know in the comments.
P.S. Thanks so much to everyone who came out to our letter-writing party in September. We wrote 214 letters!!
- Trivia @ Yard Bar 📝🧠🍻Yard Bar presented by Traveling Taphouse Featuring LULUs Kitchen, Portland, OR
Care to get to know some fellow single folks through your random knowledge of movies, history, food, science, sports, books, and music? Join us for trivia night at Yard Bar!
What to expect
- Yard Bar is an outdoor patio bar with a big covered tent and heater. Bring warm layers if it's cold out.
- We'll meet at 6:15 so we can chat, get some drinks and/or Mexican food, and grab tables under the tent. (The later you are, the farther away from the heater you will probably be ;-)
- The picnic table you sit at will become your trivia team. Teams can be up to 8 people.
- Trivia starts promptly at 7pm (but do please show up at 6:15 if you can) and goes until about 9. For anyone curious, it's Last Call Trivia.
- This group is not hardcore about trivia. We're focused on having fun and getting to know folks on our team... not winning. Don't worry about getting an answer wrong or not knowing any answers.
Tips for making a connection at/after the event
- If you meet someone you'd like to get to know more outside of the Meetup (romantically or platonically), you can:
- >>> Give them your phone number (as opposed to asking for theirs), so the ball's in their court to text you later if they're also interested. You can do this in person, or via a Meetup message if their settings allow you to message them.
- >>> Add them as a "connection" on Meetup after the event. If they add you too, you'll definitely be able to message each other. You can add 3 connections after an event (without ever paying for Meetup+). Learn more here.
- Check your privacy/messaging settings to see if they're how you want them. You can set it to only allow "connections" and group organizers to message you, or to let all members of your groups message you.
- If you suggest meeting up, try to be clear about what you're looking for. For example: "Would you like to go on a date and get dinner with me?" or "Would you like to get coffee? I could use more friends in Portland."
- Make sure to follow the Community Rules in this group's About section. These include no harassing or aggressive behavior, no messaging people you haven't met, and being respectful and honest. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know or reach out to Erin, the group's creator/main organizer.
Housekeeping
- Please keep your RSVP up to date and finalize your RSVP no later than noon on the day of trivia. (RSVPs will be closed after that.)
- Be sure to sign in when you arrive, so you don't get marked as a no-show. (If you have 2+ no-shows you may be removed from the group.)
Any questions? Let me know in the comments.
