What we’re about
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. It’s difficult to get to know people at this age, especially when you’re single. We hope to create fun, easy going events to help. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 are welcome to join.
- 2. Be respectful and kind.
- 3. Be honest and transparent.
- 4. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 5. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person.
- 6. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 7. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours instead so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 8. Do not direct message members you don't know.
- 9. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 10. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 11. Enthusiastic, verbal consent is mandatory for any physical/romantic interactions.
- 12. Make sure to change your RSVP to "no" if you can no longer attend an event. If you no-show to 2+ events (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) you will be removed from the group.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
**If you feel like a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Max or Erin) know as soon as possible.**
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If it's reported that someone has a sexual or violent criminal history they will be removed from the group. If you know of someone in who has joined our group that is a sex offender please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
- Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.
Group Costs:
- To help with group and event expenses I ask for a $2-3 donation for each event you attend unless it has an event fee. You can contribute on Venmo (@PDX_SINGLES) or pay an organizer at the event.
- Our dating "wristband" events and dating workshops have ticket fees.
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Max, Erin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/tn66X4Qdxv
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Volunteer land tending @ Errol Heights Park 🌳Errol Heights Park, Portland, OR
Want to get a little dirty and restore a natural area with like-minded single folks? Let’s get together for an event with Johnson Creek Watershed Council* and Portland Parks & Rec to help improve wildlife habitat and water quality at this gem of a park.
What to expect
- We'll be planting young native trees and shrubs and/or removing invasive weeds, and possibly picking up litter.
- Tools, training and gloves will be provided, and you don’t need any prior experience or certain level of strength or anything.
- This event will happen rain or shine.
- We'll be volunteering from 9:30-12:30. Let's meet at 9:15 so we can all say hello and find each other.
RSVP + register
For this volunteer event, you need to register here: https://www.tfaforms.com/5155960 This event may fill up, so don't wait to register if you want to go.For more info on this event, go here.
Things you may want to bring / wear
- Clothes that will keep you comfortable if it rains (avoid cotton/jeans if you can) and that you don’t mind getting dirty
- Sturdy footwear that can get wet/dirty
- Rain jacket
- Hat
- Water bottle
- Change of clothes/shoes for afterwards, if you’d like
Have to cancel?
If you register and later have to cancel, please update both your RSVP here on Meetup AND let Johnson Creek Watershed Council know you can't make it by emailing info@jcwc.org. That way, someone else can take your spot.Questions? Comment below or message Kristina.
*Johnson Creek Watershed Council is a local non-profit that works to restore Johnson Creek. They do a bunch of things like replacing small culverts that block fish passage, collecting data on the presence of various animals (like frogs and lamprey), removing trash from the creek during their Annual Johnson Creek Clean-Up, and working with people who own property along the creek/streams in the watershed to plant trees and shrubs for them at no cost. More info at jcwc.org.
**P.S. If anyone (who's been to at least a few of our events recently) would be interested in hosting an event, please reach out to me/Kristina. I'm at maximum capacity for hosting, but I'd love to support more organizers posting more events :-)
